An abused woman returns to her home. Her friends tell her not to go. They cry. They plead. She does not hear. Down the path she walks where wedding flowers have turned to thorns. Her bleeding reminds her of the flowers before. Why does she still walk this path? She knows of a better way, after all. And what of him? Has he forgotten the sent of love?
I write to you today hoping to soften your heart with compassion. There is a group of abused people out there. They lovingly return to their love, many not even knowing they are abused. There are many groups that fit this category but two come to heart the most. The abused bride … and the abused bride.
It is difficult to understand why many wives return to their husband’s abuse without initiating change. It is difficult to understand why many Christians know a Biblical Truth, yet rather than follow after the Truth, they return to their old way. Their familiar abuse. We must not look down on the woman who returns to abuse. No. We must look with compassion. She suffers. Her children suffer. … Her Husband suffers.
The abuser must first see the abuse and desire for it to never be again. Without this, there is only temporary healings and not a cure. Be it the pastor, or the head of the house, it must be brought to his attention, by more than one, in a loving manor. You must be firm. You must be true. There can be no pride. Pride is imitating Satan. Humility with firmness is imitating Yahoshuah. Pride has made what pride cannot undo. Only the humility of Messiah, and the fear of Yahoweh, can undo this. Explain the abuse must stop and that a process of love must take place beginning now. And my friends, always look to the butterfly, one of Yahoweh’s most splendid creations. An amazing change can happen, but not without miracles from above. Change can happen but it will take more than time. It will take Yahoweh.
Abusive words, whether spoken or not, often leave bruises in the heart and scar the mind. The lies of hate are given in artificial love and in time it becomes comfortable. Change may make you cold, just remember, birth always brings a chill. To you I say: it is of utmost importance to give Truth a chance. You who abuse the bride out of fear of losing her, or out of a fear of your weakness, or perhaps even unknowingly, realize this, that whom you strike is Yahoweh’s! … Practice. Practice everyday. Tell her you love her. Tell her Yahoweh loves her. And then show the love of both. Explain in words and actions, which lovingly inspire, that a Husband has a way of receiving love. Let it be your joy to love first and to forgive an infinite number of times. I say this to all.
How can one be the bride if they are still babies? Do not let them miss the wedding! Children must be weaned. Many people have had nothing but milk their entire lives and now solid foods have become unwelcome. There cannot be a walk along the True Path without a True teaching leading to the True Path of Love. Do you not fully understand Galatians 4:1-7? Do they still require the womb? Hear my plea! Practice prayer and the study of His pure Word without preconceived ideas. Yes. Practice this hourly.
Please undertake a great feat. It is so important. Stare death in the face and ‘Fully’ realize that anger kills all that is cherished. Realize this fully! An abusive man may not feel angry only because there are so many different kinds of anger, including pity, self-righteousness, and a keeping of one’s love to ones self. We must all sincerely, and in desperation, go to Yahoweh in prayer crying out for Him to remove all that is unlike His Son. And from this day forward, for no reason what so ever, raise your hand or voice in abuse again.
Loving lies, soft as a rose, drip upon my feet as blood. The path I walk, one of dreams. I am a bride today adorned in perfume of tears. Will the leaves fall this winter? Will the tree give shade this summer? Will this path bloom again?
